There are no special requirements for this course, not even to be a parent yet, because there are quite a few questions and answers not necessarily related to one’s children, but to one’s own childhood. For example why we don’t remember things from our early childhood, and how those things influence who we are now. Moreover, how can we start digging for those and wounds well hidden.
In order to grow tall and strong, a tree needs strong and healthy roots.
We don’t know what makes a child happy, because emotions are not placed in a human by hand, are not transferable as if they were objects, they grow as a subjective experience. But what we know is that parents are models for their children, and seeing parenting as a way to fix children or to change or improve their behavior is like practicing medicine only looking at the symptoms, never at the root cause.
A happy parent has a great chance to have happy kids, because children tend to copy moods, and behaviors, actions and states of being, rather than words and empty commands. They become what they see, not what they are told to.
We live in a society which doesn’t really make a parent’s “job” easier. True, we have diapers and washing machines, but we are expected to excel in this parenting job (which by the way, it is never considered to be a PROPER job, though it can be quite exhausting) among all our other jobs and duties.
An old lady, a grandmother of 4 nephews and mother of 2 daughters, once told me, seeing me on the plane with my two active and always curious boys :”You know, had I been a mother in these times, with all the facilities, I don’t think I would have made it. Honestly. It is just too much and too hard.”
I thought about that and realized she is right. Too much information, contradictory at times, too much pressure to be perfect in all areas, we are too exposed to our imperfections (by comparing our children with the GLOBE) and too obliged to do it all PERFECT. And the more we try to fix our kids, the more unhappy and trapped we feel.
What makes a parent happy? What do we need to feel happy and fulfilled? Not just in the relationship with the child, but in relationship with ourselves.
My name is Ina Ilie, I am the mother of two, I studied psychopedagogy, I have a masters degree in Cognitive Science, I conduct parenting workshops and I do counseling sessions with parents like you, helping them understand the real reasons of their struggling and find the answers they were searching for.
Who this course is for:
This course adresses parents in general, and it is especially dedicated to parents who don’t want parenting advice, but answers based on science (neuroscience, in particular), psychology and pedagogy. The course is structured more like a workshop with questions and answers, because all parents don’t need anymore is the condescence of another parenting expert telling them how to be good parents (there aren’t such things as good or bad parents, by the way. only happy and less than happy parents)